Little evening of American hygge

The Little Book of Hygge: Danish Secrets to Happy Living by Meik Wiking

3 words: cozy, happy, intimate

Biologically speaking, I’m ⅛ Danish. But when we talk about hygge*, I’m pretty sure I’m 100%.

Hygge: it’s the domestic trend of 2017, and I’m totally into it.

Hygge: it’s a word to represent the Danish concept of coziness

I was born for coziness.

(Probably most of us were, but I’m thinking I’ve got some serious natural gifts in this department. I’ll challenge anyone to the building of the world’s coziest little blanket-and-pillow nest.)

Denmark frequently ranks near the top of the list of happiest countries, and this book’s author (CEO of the Happiness Research Institute) says hygge is an important part of the picture.

And this charming little book is a handbook to creating your own experiences of hygge.

The book itself is pretty darn hyggeligt (cozy), cuz it’s small and includes pleasant drawings in soft blue tones that represent the key elements of hygge. We’re talking: candlelight, comfort, togetherness, a cozy nook, a fireplace, books, ceramics, blankets and cushions, vintage touches, and pleasures like warm beverages, chocolate, and cake.

Dear heaven, people. I want that life.

So the Dear Man and I set out to build it.

On a recent February evening, we did all the cozy things… we did some meandering tourist-style grocery shopping at a completely fascinating international market where we bought Danish cheese and butter because: hygge: it is Danish.

We also bought lots of other delightful things (including chocolate), because hygge demanded it.

Then we cooked Bookbinder Soup (I know!!!) and dined by candlelight and it was cozy as all heck.

And there was even the requisite book-as-coziness-object because, while the soup simmered, Book Nerd here kept reading aloud to highlight all the ways we were having the most hyggeligt evening ever in all the world.

(Did I mention I was wearing my fuzzy new slippers? I was.)

 

Give this book a whirl if you like… nesting, learning about other cultures, slowing it down a little to savor the coziness of winter, and books about the quiet pleasures of domestic life.

 

So, my friends… What are your hygge superpowers?

 

*pronounced: hoo-gah

Getting Things Done: The Re-Read Edition

Getting Things Done by David Allen
This October, I’ve been in re-read mode. 
It’s actually pretty darn fun, to feel the freedom to re-read– so often, I feel pressured to read something new.
So today, we’re looking at my first re-read of the fall season.
Earlier this year, when I finished reading Getting Things Done, I put a reminder in my calendar (Google Calender is one of my key GTD tools) to revisit the book in the fall.
This time, I decided to listen to it. And that was a brilliant idea, if I do say so myself. David Allen, the author, narrates the book, and it’s one of those delightful instances where the author reads the book better than anyone else could. Dude has a soothing voice, and he speaks with quiet confidence. It was like a private coaching session.
And, just like he says in the book, the next time I read it, I gained new insights. And I was inspired to fine-tune my system. These changes sound small, but They Are Not. Here’s what I did:

I wasn’t kidding about the bathtub crayons
First, I improved my Capture systems. In GTD lingo, “capture” refers to catching ideas when they arise, and saving them in a system you trust.
I did this: 
  • Placed small notebooks in 2 additional places where I often have ideas, so I can capture them 
  • Bought bathtub crayons so I can write my shower thoughts (anyone else do their best thinking in the shower?) right there on the wall

Next, I hacked my system to make myself more accountable to myself. 
I did this:
  • Created hyperlinks to connect related Word documents. This one works especially well in the Projects List doc, where I’ve added links to my various project pages. When I do my weekly review, I now actually look at each project page, because I’ve made it easy. And it’s paying off — I’ve already thought of some new ways to approach some of my projects. [small squeal of delight as I realize he ain’t kidding about the subtitle to the book: The Art of Stress-Free Productivity]

And finally, I kept myself honest. Here’s where I was goofing up: Instead of making sure my Next Actions List contained only actual “next actions,” I allowed some of the items to be projects that needed to have “next actions” defined for them. So…
I did this: 
  • Reviewed
    my Next Actions list with a discerning eye, then turned vague
    statements into concrete Next Actions. Again: immediate results. It was a
    sudden kick-start to some projects that I’d allowed myself to glide
    past, because they required thinking. Once the actual thinking is done and I decided what to actually do: super easy.
OK. Anyone else completely infatuated with a self-improvement book? If so, which one?  

How to Love Where You Live

This Is Where You Belong: The Art and Science of Loving the Place You Live by Melody Warnick
3 words: personal, informative, domestic
 
“What if a place becomes the right place only by our choosing to love it?” (p. 15)
Interesting question, right?
I’m super lucky, because I’ve loved my town since I first laid eyes on it. In many ways, it chose me first.
But ever since then, I’ve chosen it over and over again, and I feel rooted here. But when I read this book, I realized that my roots aren’t nearly as deep as they could be. 

And I liked the book so much, I didn’t even mind the discovery that I still had a lot of work to do. 

This book is a wonderfully pleasant mash-up of personal narrative and handbook.
As the book begins, Warnick and her family are on the verge of moving to Blacksburg, Virginia, after several moves in their recent past. And she’s decided to love where she lives.
So she does the research, and then she walks the walk.
It’s rather Happiness Project-esque, and coming from me, that’s a huge compliment.
Warnick is a cheerful guide through the ways a person can become more attached and more fond of her community. I liked hanging out with her in these pages.
And I was impressed by the work she did to connect herself to her new city.
Though occasionally I longed for introvert-friendly variations on some of the steps. I just gotta tell you: There ain’t no way I’m inviting everyone on my block to my home for dinner anytime soon.
But many of the tips are easy and fun.
For example: “Find a place in your town to become a regular. Clues: Google the name of your town with ‘hidden gem,’ ‘local,’ ‘secret,’ ‘neighborhood,’ or ‘undiscovered.’”  (p. 179)
And this one: “Read about your town’s history so you have a better sense of what it’s been through.” (p. 243)
Each chapter concludes with a “Love Your City Checklist,” and while some of the stuff I’m not doin’, I was glad to have some items to put on the to-do list.
And I learned that my house has a Walk Score of 70 — very walkable. (I already knew this: I can walk to the DQ and the library, so basically I’m all set.)
And I walked the walk a little bit, too…  literally.
I walked (walking is one of the ways to love your city) to a locally owned cafe (buying local: that’s another way) that’s a few blocks from my house, and I sat in the shade and looked at the sunshine on the old buildings, and I ate wonderful food and I read my book.
This is what it looked like, and it was heaven.
So this book offers tips for people who already love where they live — you can always take it up a notch — but especially for those who don’t feel particularly connected to their town. 
 

So, good people… What do you love most about where you live?

Simply productive

Work Simply: Embracing the Power of Your Personal Productivity Style by Carson Tate
Hello, my pretty…
3 words: individualized, practical, energetic
Oh, people, I seriously love the productivity books.
And this one is seriously good.
During a conversation with another librarian, I mentioned Getting Things Done (of course I did) and how it had revolutionized my workflow.
And she recommended the book Work Simply by Carson Tate, which she had found similarly helpful.
So I dashed right back to the library to check it out. 
And the thing I liked about this book — well, there were lots of things. 
First, I liked that Tate incorporates a lot of the principles I recognize from Getting Things Done, such as the 2-minute rule (or however many minutes you want to say — 1-minute rule, 5-minute rule, whatever). Basically, the idea is: If you can get it done in 2 minutes or less, do it now.
Second, I was wildly intrigued at Tate’s concept of the four productivity styles: Prioritizer, Planner, Arranger, and Visualizer.
And there’s a quiz that will tell you which is your primary and secondary style.
And of course, I was the boring styles, in a dead tie. 
You’re looking at a Planner / Prioritizer here.
There’s no glamour there, guys — no sparkle, no pizzazz. I simply get the stuff done.
The other styles (those Arrangers and Visualizers) are encouraged use multi-color sticky notes and file folders and cute, decorative office accessories. They’re prompted to use large whiteboards for brainstorming and inspiration. They’re told to decorate their offices lavishly.
This book explains why I don’t like those things (too distracting!) even though part of me wishes I did.
I’m the plain, simply-labeled file folder type. Times two. (Planner + Prioritizer)
I sighed heavily, accepted my fate, and got down to business.
That’s what we prioritizing planners do.  
Here are some tips I immediately implemented from this book:
  • Created a list of “10 Minutes or Less” action steps
  •  Started actually scheduling buffer time (to accommodate the time spent in transition from one task to another)
Seriously helpful stuff here!
I’ve actually made it into a game (the prioritizing planner type of game) that I’ll do one item each day from the “10 Minutes or Less” list, which is forcing me to pick off some of the stuff that I’d otherwise push off to another day. It gives a little jolt of satisfaction that I’ve checked something off the list, and that thing took only a small amount of time.
This book also gives tips for dealing with interruptions, improving productivity of meetings, and writing more effective emails.

There’s really something here for everyone, regardless of work style. 

Talk to me… What are your favorite books about productivity? 

KonMari’d librarianwear

Just in case you thought I was all talk and no action when it came to The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up (dang, I love that book)…

I give you…

My librarian cardigan shelves!

I know. It’s a beautiful sight.  
My closet doors actually close now (due to all that tidying up), but sometimes I keep them open anyway — because: the view, people! The view!!

Creature of habit

The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business by Charles Duhigg
3 words: informative, inspiring, thought-provoking
To a confirmed self-improvement book junkie, this book was as tantalizing as a rabbit to a greyhound. I just couldn’t get enough of it.
Duhigg harnesses the power of story to convey big truths about habit formation, and he’s a darn good storyteller.
He’s selected anecdotes that clearly illustrate each concept, so even if a person (that would be me) tends to forget the details, simpy recalling the story helps to bring the details back into focus.
For me, the biggest takeaway is the concept of keystone habits — the habits that create an avalanche effect on other habits.
With a keystone habit, once you change one habit, lots of other good habits follow, almost of their own accord. It’s like giving yourself a master key that unlocks all the doors.
And I really loved this part:
One of the biggest, most consistent keystone habits is exercise.
Once a person starts exercising, she tends to start eating more healthfully and getting better sleep. And exercise creates some really great benefits that fuel other good things that help a person stick with a habit: increased energy, improved mood, endorphins. It becomes the best kind of feedback loop.

As a running junkie (a habit even more deeply rooted than the reading of self-improvement books), it was fascinating to read this analysis, which so clearly explained many of the reasons that once I started running, I really started smiling.  

Last fall I read Gretchen Rubin’s Better Than Before. While The Power of Habit covers the same topic, they’re quite different books. And I like them both so very much. They complement each other well.

If you’re into the self-improvement stuff, oh, guys… pick up this book.

Gettin’ it done

Getting Things Done by David Allen
Project unstuck due to GTD! Next action: find photo for final frame
3 words: life-changing, practical,
invigorating
Wow, people.
This book has changed my life.
While I’ve usually felt good about my level of productivity, I’ve recently taken it up about 10 notches.
And meanwhile, I’ve been
walking around feeling relatively calm and contented.
And this book (plus the not-so-hard work of actually implementing the steps) is completely responsible.
It’s positively weird how effective this methodology is.
So, basically, there are several aspects to this system, and the parts that stick out the most for me are:
– If it can be done in 2 minutes or less, do it now.
– Capture all ideas and store them someplace safe. And then develop a surefire way to make sure you can retrieve the information at the right time. (Man, it’s so librarian-ish, I get all aquiver. Information storage & retrieval!)
– Decide: What’s my next action? And make it concrete.
That “next action” thing is ridiculously powerful. I recently got myself unstuck by changing the wording of my “next action” from “Send email to Person A about Project B” to “Draft email to Person A about Project B.”
I know it seems silly, but it works. 
So — it’s probably a good idea to avoid me for a while, because I’m on the loose in this world, radiating the zeal of a particularly fervent convert. Given the chance, I’ll start talking GTD, and I’ll be all gleeful, and you will wish to flee. 
And then I’ll go and do something remarkably pedestrian but wildly productive. 
And then I’ll cement the bliss by listening to the Getting Things Done podcast or watching a GTD video on YouTube
And then I’ll try to tell you about that, too. 
So: you’ve been warned.

Habitually happier

Better Than Before: Mastering the
Habits of Our Everyday Lives
by
Gretchen Rubin
3 words:
encouraging, practical, inspiring
I’ve
been binge-reading and binge-listening to Gretchen Rubin these past couple of
months, and it’s been making me Happier.*  
After
reading The Happiness Project a virtual lifetime ago, I was a Rubin
convert. 
And then
I read Happier at Home a few months
ago, and: more happiness in my home, too.
Habit helper: setting a bedtime alarm
This
latest book, I feared, might be kind of a buzz-kill. It’s about habits, and
that sounds so very, very earnest. 
And after a long day of giving it all I’ve
got, by the point in the evening when I actually get to sit down to read, I
wasn’t so sure that reading about habit formation was really gonna set my world
on fire.
Wrong.
Sometimes
I love it when I’m wrong.
The
things that save this book are the same things that made Rubin’s other two
books so delightful: her voice and her honesty and her research and her
willingness to throw herself into her work and then put herself out there for
us to see.
Also,
even though I’m tired by the end of the day, I have a weakness for
self-improvement projects, and when I read this on page 5, she had me: “Habits
make change possible by freeing us from decision making and from using
self-control.”
The
thought that better habits could make it easier to do the things I think I
really should do—that’s some
revolutionary stuff right there. 
So I wrote a list of 5 things to work on, and I’m picking away at them. (Currently ignoring my bedtime alarm, so I’ve gotta pre-post this bad boy and hit the hay.)
But first…
3 more words: empowering, exciting, enjoyable
 
 

Happy house

Happier at Home: Kiss More, Jump
More, Abandon a Project, Read Samuel Johnson, and My Other Experiments in the
Practice of Everyday Life
by
Gretchen Rubin

3 words:
domestic, inspiring, pleasant

It’s only 92 degrees as I post this, so: HEARTH.

My home’s
been a regular little hive of domesticity in recent days (which makes it sound
like I’ve been baking bread and whipping up souffles and generally using my
kitchen, which I assure you is not actually taking place; also: no flower-arranging).
But ever
since I read Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I’ve been changing my life by tidying
up. 
Crazy
but true: this stuff actually works.
[Update:
I’ve KonMari’d my clothes, and a wonderful friend helped me build a dresser to accommodate my little bundles of clothes, and I am almost frighteningly happy every time I
open my closet (which now actually closes).]
And then
I turned to Gretchen Rubin for some more home life inspiration, because I’m on
a roll here.
I really liked Rubin’s earlier book, The Happiness Project (liked it even more than expected).
And I
knew I’d like this one, too—once I was feeling settled enough to read it. 
(I’m
currently feeling wildly, contentedly, excitedly settled, so I went in.)
Rubin
covers some similar ground as Marie Kondo (removing clutter), and she builds on
some ideas in her own Happiness Project (building
shrines: gathering together objects that remind you of happy times).
But the
book goes beyond the physical aspects of home, to encompass things like giving
warm greetings and farewells, and suffering for 15 minutes.
This
15-minute suffering concept intrigues me. Basically, the idea is: we can stand
almost anything for 15 minutes. So
spend 15 minutes a day on one of those odious tasks you keep avoiding, and the
thing’ll actually get done.
I might
also convert it into “relax for 15 minutes”—because sometimes that’s the thing
that doesn’t get done. 
I’m putting “Read for 15 minutes” on my to-do list for tomorrow. (As if I’ll stop at 15…)

Sparking joy all over the place

The Life-Changing Magic of
Tidying Up
by
Marie Kondo

Don’t
worry—I’m not about to post a YouTube video of my perfectly re-folded sock
drawer. (I haven’t gotten to that part yet.)
But I’m
here to tell you, guys, this total non-hoarder just dispensed with 3 garbage
bags full of clothes after reading this quick little book. And against all
odds, I recently packed for a 5-day trip in a mere carry-on!
 
I am a
changed woman.
And
dang, it feels good.
So here’s
why this book is sweeping the nation: Kondo’s theory is that we should keep
only the things that spark joy. 

Everything else: out!

So she
has you go through your home, touching each object (which I thought would be
counter to de-cluttering, based on research that shows that once we touch an
item in a store, we’re umpteen times more likely to buy it—but it actually helped
me get rid of stuff) and deciding whether it brings joy. Then you toss out all
the old stuff that no longer does it for you.
She
suggests going through your home by category, starting with clothes. This also
works. (Though I cheated and started weeding my library before I’d cleared all
the closets. Book fanatic inevitability.)
So here’s
what she suggests when it comes to the books: take all the books off the
shelves, stack them on the floor, and then pick up each book and decide whether
it gives you joy.
I might
actually do that.
Then you
go through everything else in your house, category by category.
Then you
get to do the fun part and KonMari your clothes.

(This
was my carry-on packing secret weapon.) 
So I’m
all swept up in it, purging things like a wild woman in my meager free time. It’s
become one of my treats.

I know.
Sick.

But this
place is looking darn spiffy, guys.